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Officially waiting!

Today our adoption file was officially submitted to the National Adoption Committee in Kenya.

The news from Little Angels Network is, “The file will be submitted tomorrow (Friday). A lot of our files were still pending at the committee and we did not want to submit more before the backlog was dealt with.  Now that they have dealt with most of the back log from last year, we feel more confident submitting the files.”

So that is good news!

Back to packing so we can go to Germany and then Costa Rica…

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Letter of Motivation for Adoption

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Today we heard from Kenya. Not the BIG news, but a step forward – we hope!

They have asked for additional information for our adoption application such as our divorce decrees and a Letter of Motivation.

Sooooo, in the middle of packing to move to Costa Rica, I had to rearrange my day to:

  1. Search the attic for the divorce papers which I packed away long ago – but still have, thank God!
  2. Frantically write a kick-butt Letter of Motivation – see below.

We don’t know if our adoption papers have been formally given from Little Angels Network (LAN) to the National Adoption Committee (NAC), but we hope so!

As 3 other Norwegian families were approved and notified today, I think this is a good sign.

Let’s keep the hope alive.

Letter of Motivation for Adoption

5 August 2014

We, Jonas and JoEllen Nordström, do hereby declare that both of us have always dreamed of being parents. Before we got married, we both told each other of our hopes to one day be parents together. We dream of providing a loving home to our large family.

We both love children and know how they bring much joy and happiness to daily life and our family. Before we had our biological daughter, we had already discussed adoption as an option as we planned for many children.

Our original family plan for additional children failed when our long-anticipated son died shortly after birth. As we are now infertile, we have a strong motivation to adopt. We are unable to have biological children after 5 miscarriages during the past 4 years and an emergency operation to remove an ovarian cyst. However, we have not given up on our dream.

We know personally that families are built in many different ways, and adoption is one of the positive ways of uniting with our child. We are very comfortable with adoption and promise that we as a family plan to love the child that we adopt as completely as if the child was born of us. Our entire family (Jonas’ older children and our soon 5 year-old biological daughter) longs for a sibling and playmate. We are all waiting eagerly to meet them.

We are also very close to our extended family members and friends who will love the child that we adopt from Kenya and fully accept the child as a family member. Adoption is a great option for becoming a family. We are so thankful for the opportunity being given to us by the government of Kenya to not only adopt a child but to also learn the culture of our new family member by living in Nairobi. In fact, our son is now traveling independently to study at the Swedish School in Nairobi in anticipation of being present for his new brother or sister.

We promise to always love, care, educate and equally provide for this child as our own. We realize that adoption is not the same as having a child biologically. This child will have an additional culture, a unique background, and a former family. We promise to embrace this and help them to understand their history and life story. We will never neglect, harm or abandon the child that we are fortunate enough to adopt.

We have the necessary resources of time, love, energy, and financial stability to raise another child. We promise to love them unconditionally for a lifetime. We wish to build a healthy and trusting relationship which will allow our new child to fully experience the blessings of a forever family.

Ultimately, adoption is more about the child than us. We are committed to providing the necessary foundations for a healthy relationship and a positive outcome. Difficulties will not change our commitment or love.

Thank you for your kind assistance, consideration of our family and dedicated care of our future family member.

Out of Control…

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What I never would have predicted…

Life, results, achievements…sometimes we simply are not in control. What you get is what you get.

This thought process – this acceptance of only controlling so much in life – it’s a learning process. It’s humbling.

It’s surrender.

I’m trying to accept surrender to the unknown and simply focus more on the now.  Because right now I can choose to be present. To see joy.  And to find happiness in what I have and not necessarily what I want or hope to achieve. And the bonus of focusing on now is that it distracts me from the past. What I didn’t get or what I didn’t achieve. That’s another form of surrender and acceptance. More humble pie.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not being pessimistic…or feeling defeated.

I am trying to speak the truth to my heart so it will sink in and feel ok.

And I stand in a different reality right now from many others…but only in the awareness that life simply is whatever it is. My life path has taken some major twists and turns. Some amazing, unbelievable successes in love and business, and now some eye-opening disasters with the death of an infant and then infertility. Things that can crush a soul’s will. I am swaying between these experiences. Life’s wins and losses.

In this unpredictable storm, I can only make daily choices now that I hope will create the outcome I desire in the future. To think that my hard work will necessarily “work out”, “pay off” or “achieve success” would be rather silly after facing death and the truly unpredictable. I have learned that I am not in charge.

So we are hoping to adopt while actively planning to move to Nairobi for the next year. The adoption may happen – or not. We are not in control here. We will do our best. We will try our damnedest. We will rent our house, buy tickets and explore Kenya. That is our plan. It may fluctuate a bit but our adventure awaits.

Perhaps the waiting is the hardest.  But in the meanwhile, I will focus on the now. The present. I will try to fully engage and enjoy what I have. An amazing daughter, a loving husband, a strong community with those I love, and time. I will simply indulge in the time that I have right now.

Life, results, achievements…sometimes we simply are not in control. What you get is what you get. And that’s not all bad if you look around…

 

Our journey towards adoption in Kenya…

Welcome to our blog of love, loss, life and living! AND Our journey towards adoption in Kenya…

We are currently journeying towards adoption in Kenya. We have submitted our application, are awaiting approval from the National Adoption Committee (NAC) and plan to move our family to Nairobi. Here is the place online where you can follow our journey, thoughts, hopes, dreams, struggles, and life as a family… Welcome to our place!

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